Be The Change

BE THE CHANGE! Toxic Childhood Trauma stops with me.

Why should you be the Change?

Toxic people and childhood trauma led to me becoming a full-time stay-at-home wife and mama. Being a stay-at-home wife and mama is one of the hardest yet most rewarding jobs I have ever done. There were many times I doubted myself and thought that I could never be a good mother. But then I look at my life and know God has chosen me to be their mama. He has chosen for me to be a stay-at-home wife and mama. This is his plan, and I am just living it through him.

God has given me the pleasure to take it all in. I get to be there for everything. And get to see that what I am teaching my kids will make them happier and healthier people in the end. In this house, we continue breaking generational curses. We believe in fixing childhood traumas and blocking the toxic people who think they have leverage.

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;
they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
they shall walk and not faint.”
Isaiah 40:31

People fear losing their families even the toxic ones. However little do they know that they are losing themselves. They are opening themselves up to be taken advantage of, disrespected, or controlled. When you make choices to exclude those people life becomes enjoyable.

Do not let people’s need for control invade your lifestyle. Take charge and be the change. Don’t forget to think back to when you were growing up with parents who weren’t around. Be there for your kids, and make sure they know you are there for them. If you grew up with abusive parents, you need to be the change, and don’t let that go on to your kids, they deserve the love you wish you had. Suppose you saw things your parents did that you don’t agree with. Be the change, and don’t let whatever hurt you as a child move on to your children or grandchildren.

Playing the victim card is easy.
Not taking responsibility for your actions is easy.
Losing your temper is easy.
Being self-absorbed is easy.
Putting your feelings above your kid’s is easy.

I never said the change was going to be easy. It’s worth it and will make future generations happier and healthier. You are the only one who can make the change for yourselves and your children. Just remember you will struggle, have days you fail, and have moments of doubt, but persevere. I promise the end is worth it.

How has our life changed since?

Focusing more on our family and kids has made us happier. We have excluded people who don’t actually care and don’t want us around. And we feel like we can breathe and enjoy ourselves. However we are still judged by our parenting choices but in the end, they are ours to protect.

Who to stay away from?

The people I am talking about are soul-sucking, vibe killers and your instincts tell you to stay away. Please don’t give them a second chance or a piece of your life then they will take that and run until there is nothing left for you besides hurt, pain, conflict, and hate.